TIPS TO MAKE SASURAL A GENDA PHOOL                                                                                                                  

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Sasural Genda Phool

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Sasural Genda Phool

Yes my dear friendssssss……..sasuraal is like a Genda phool.

When you get married and if it is arrange marriage and if you are staying with you in laws then every bride feels butterflies in her stomach. 

                                                                                                                        

Everything is new to you, home, people, kitchen, customs, even the person to whom you married is also new to you. You have to cope with such changes and at the same time you have to understand everybody.

As all people are new to you, in a similar way you are also new to these people. Understand that, these people will also take some time to understand you. One of the points I wanted to convey is that you should not make any prior assumptions without knowing your new people. Remember that what you give, you will get back…………..

Dear Ladies, I also got married two years back and I too had faced post marital changes  in relationship. There are so many factors which make you nervous while entering into new house like nature /behavior of your new relatives, food interest, culture, attitude, choice and what not. Perhaps I can’t list all these. 

I want to share most important 15 tips to you ladies out of my own experience to be at ease in your new home:-

             

• Give respect to everybody.
• Do not be shy. Speak up and spend quality time with them.
• Help your relatives in their works and try to understand them, about    their hobby, rules, regulations etc etc.
• Get up early and wrap up your things fast.      
• If you do not how to cook or if you do not know how to operate some  machines etc. etc. then just go and tell to the person politely about   your  incapacity to do the said work and try to learn the same.
•  If you are going out then inform your elderly people in the house. Similarly if you are not feeling well or are not comfortable with some things then you  should inform them politely otherwise they will never know what is  happening and unnecessary misunderstanding will be there.
•  If somebody is coming to visit you then inform them in advance.
•  Give respect to their rules, culture and customs. Try to follow the same.
•  Most important – take care of your husband
•  Do not take all responsibilities on your head. Share them.
•  Focus on positives.
•  Avoid comparison of your parent’s home with your in laws home.
•  Do not gossip.
•  Keep faith in relationship and always keep environment friendly.
•  Appreciate people.

Always keep in mind that first impression is the last impression. Be little caution about your behavior, attitude and gesture. Above mentioned tips I would recommend newlywed bride to keep in mind. Once you get acquainted with others then it will be very easy for you to manage the family. You will enjoy each and every thing with feeling any burden. 

Song “sasuraal genda phool” from bolly wood movie Delhi 6 is very true in the sense that the scene created in the song is very natural and this shows the transition of a lady who started liking her in law house.

I am very sure that after spending couple of months with your new family you will feel one of them and your butterflies stop flying in your stomach hhhhhhhaa.